Gone are the days where reading books about sex are considered well, embarrassing (to say the least).
We say open that sex book with a whole lot of pride—on the train, on the bus, in your Uber, hell even at your Nan’s 80th birthday. The time is now to load up on a whole of s-excellent stuff, be it through podcasts or even some self-care producing retail therapy. As Leonard Nimoy always said— “Live long and prosper in the bedroom.”
Here are the best sex-positive books to read right now.
The Ethical Slut
By Dossie Easton
Not only does “monogamy” have far too many syllables for a word with barely any letters but it’s also, and bear with us here, a pretty old concept. No, it’s not about sticking your pencil in every sharpener you see, rather how to dapple in the emotional side of polyamory—the communication, the honesty needed and of course, safe sex practices. This is the third edition of this ever-timeless must-read and now includes a whole heap of interviews with poly millennials and new chapters on topics like asexuality, sex workers, and ways polys can connect and thrive. We’re also cheering for the nonbinary gender language used in this new version of The Ethical Slut.
All The F*cking Mistakes
By Gigi Engle
Say hello to your little modern bible on all things sex, love and life. If there’s one thing to know about Gigi Engle’s brand-spankin’ new book, All The F*cking Mistakes, it’s that it’s all about empowerment. For those that identify with living out their version of womanhood, this is a practical handbook for all the slutty and wanna-be-slutty women out there. It is the ultimate sex-talk book, demystifying female sexuality without any of the awkwardness of "the talk." From learning how to take back your confidence in a world full of slut-shaming, to discovering and owning your sexual empowerment through masturbation, to demanding the love you really deserve, this book is probably God reincarnated, if we’re completely honest.
By Juno Roche
If you haven’t heard of Juno Rocher—let us extend an olive branch sprouting with facts. Juno (who identifies as she, her and they) is an internationally recognised trans writer, campaigner and founder of Trans Workers UK and she has the humour to boot. In her book Queer Sex, she dives into the likes of sex, desire and dating with leading figures from the trans and non-binary community. She basically uses the book to call out prejudices and asks you to explore your own concepts (you’ll be fine) of intimacy and sexuality.
How To Have Feminist Sex
By Flo Perry
We’ll just state the elephant in the bedroom—to some, the phrase “feminist sex” might seem a bit like an oxymoron but good news, it doesn’t have to be (and we say this wearing our best Gloria Steinem t-shirts). This illustrated book is your fun guide to just loving your body and having fun, guilt-free sex without the patriarchal BS. How To Have Feminist Sex talks about dating after #MeToo, faking consent, stress to kink and honestly, how losing your V-card isn't so different to eating your first chocolate croissant.
Essays In Love
By Alain De Botton
This goldie oldie is probably the literature equivalent to getting around some tantric sex—it’s slow, sensual and we guarantee you’ll feel like an absolute boss dog when you’ve finished. This series of love-essays (swoon) tale the story of a man and woman who meet over casual conversation on a flight from Paris to London. From first kiss to first argument, elation to heartbreak and everything in between, each stage of their relationship is poetically sprawled among the pages of Essays In Love and we know you’ll love it.
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